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How To Spot People That Seem Good, And Are Really Toxic

In today’s world a person needs good survival skills. It is easy to get people that have toxic traits and think they are okay people. A lot of people today, are only self validated; and they all think they are great!

The trouble comes when they think they are great, and really very toxic people that aren’t good at all. Let’s examine a few ideas about this. I will try to illustrate the ideas with some kind of reasonable example you can follow.

Example 1:

A nice Christian woman goes to a national park, and she see’s many kinds of wildlife while she is in the park. She see’s bears, and birds of all kinds. A moose, and a bob cat. Then when leaving the park, she see’s a wolf. And she really likes the wolf, and she decides she wants one of her own.

So the woman goes out and acquires a wolf of her own. But she doesn’t like its behavior, she really wants it to act like a house cat. She isn’t happy with the wolf, because it doesn’t behave like a house cat. She has the wolf drugged against its will in an effort to make it live like a good house cat, because that is what she wants.

The wolf isn’t happy. The wolf hates living like a house cat. Doesn’t it seem immoral to drug a wolf against its will and try forcing it to live like a house cat? It is not in its nature to live like a house cat, it is a wolf, and wants to live like a wolf. It has something in its blood that being confined like a house cat goes against everything inside it.

Example 2:

Someone that has only had a cat their whole life, gets a dog. They think the dog is really bad, because it doesn’t behave like a house cat. They don’t know how to train it, they don’t know how to treat it right, and they hate the dog, because it doesn’t act like they want it to.

Maybe, the problem is not the dog? Maybe, the problem is the person that has the dog doesn’t know how to train, treat, or handle a dog; when what they should have is house cat.

You can not expect a dog to live like a house cat. That just isn’t going to work. So what you can do, is not expect the same behavior from the two. They really are not the same kinds of animals.

Be Reasonable

Can you see the reason in this? Does it make sense? The first example seems like something that is immoral, because the expectations of the person went against the very nature of the wolf, and it is not logical, reasonable, or rational behavior on the part of the woman who wanted to keep a wolf like a house cat.

The second example is of just pure ignorance. Some people do not think, and can not reason that the two do not behave alike. Sometimes people have no experience, and should chalk it up as a learning experience. But please, don’t expect your dogs to behave like house cats. They are more than warm sacks of shit, and should be treated as such.

This article is about how to spot toxic people. So now that we have covered a few examples of things that are toxic, let’s examine some other ways people need to be aware of.

Those who try to control, manipulate, or change those who have natures different than themselves, should never expect a person to conform to their expectations. Something I saw today online, really made me think. It said: “A man that really loves you will change his behavior for you.”

Thinking about this, made me angry. If a woman doesn’t like a mans behavior; she should never get involved with him in the first place. End of story, full stop!

People that are good for each other, are good for each other. If they are not good for you, are you sure you aren’t trying to do something unnatural like make a wolf live like a house cat?

It would be just as immoral and unreasonable to expect a wolf to live like a house cat. So why do people expect someone to be different from their nature? It seems illogical to expect someone to change their ways for someone that isn’t going to love them for who they are inside. They either love everything about them, or they will grow to despise the person for who they are.

There is no real way to make a house cat understand this. They are illiterate, and couldn’t think past cat nip, tv, and preening to make them understand. They lack the capacity to understand it.

Pity, they should have never been allowed to be in control. People that only have solution rooted in politics, religion, and sobriety, do not understand, and will never understand. They are toxic people, who are best avoided. Learn from my mistakes, be careful who you trust. They will drug you if you disagree with them, and their ways. They will wonder why the wolf doesn’t exist like a house cat, and doesn’t like the treatment. And they get really upset if you complain about it. Maybe they were immoral to have done what they did in the first place.

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What Should We Value, Honor, and Respect As Beings In This World?

Where is the honor, respect, and kindness in this world?

This world has some problems. A lot of people have been de-valued, to the point most people can not get much respect these days.

Respect is defined as admiring someone for their abilities, qualities, or achievements. It seems, achievements without qualities isn’t worth much, if anything. So there has to be a careful balance of all the variables. Really someone with abilities that are beyond normal, with qualities that are above average, and achievements that stand out; that is someone to respect in this world.

Seems some of the variables have been tainted. Because most everyone sets out with the expectation of making a certain amount of money in their lifetimes. The standards that have been set says that everyone should try to make a million dollars to live off when they retire. And people set that goal, then act completely ruthless to reach their goals.

It seems like this standard has been carefully crafted, to make society perform in specific ways. And it is working very well. The problem is, most people don’t care about what is really best anymore; they allow their greed, or envy to dictate how they should behave.

Really, we have to get back to doing what is best for everyone. As long as people are stabbing each other in the back, society will continue to be a ruthless place to exist. Really these conditions don’t make a civilized culture.

One of the problems in my opinion is that of supply and demand. The supply of humans is very high, while the demand is very low. We need a way to work the variables out so that we don’t harm the supply of important ingredients, while reducing the supply of humans to a modest level.

Seems people don’t respect effort, skill, or talent these days. It might be because the supply is great, and the demand is low. Therefor the value goes down by a significant amount. Much that once had value, has been de-valued. It seems, our lives are nearly worthless trash these days. And that should never be the case. Not ever.

Most people are just existing, the majority of people are not really living. And they are content with just existing, like warm sacks of shit. Maybe that is important to them? Seems there has to be something that can be done to bring value and meaning back into our lives; to make life better for everyone!

Without value, and purpose; people will continue to just exist like warm sacks of shit. We want better than that. We want a lot better than that. So let’s work towards finding out what puts value, purpose, and meaning back into our lives. Really, we should be respecting people based off their abilities, qualities, and achievements. It seems the standards that have been set, much that once had value is no longer a commodity.

So what really has value in today’s world? Answer that, then work towards making life better for everyone so they can achieve those things.

Conclusion

Life has to have meaning, and purpose. We have to as a society value the lives of our fellow beings enough that we don’t show them dis-respect, and honor those who deserve to be honored.

We need to get back to having some values in life. Because society has lost its way in this maze of hundred dollar bills.

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Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit

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Rare Birds – How The System Is Creating The Extinction Of Species In The Job Market

The Problem:

Life has some problems, some of them are serious. There has been a steady de-valuation of human life for some time. These problems are likely caused by supply and demand, or the lack thereof. Seems the supply of humans is high, and the demand is low. Thus, they have lost some of their value; much to their harm.

Seems the book “Snow Crash” by Neil Stephenson is starting to ring true today; the world has been reduced to: Movies, Music, Micro-code, and High Speed Pizza Delivery. That doesn’t leave much room for anything else in life to grow.

The obvious choices we once had for respecting people for skill, or talent have fallen far from people’s minds. Today, they care nothing about effort, skill, or talent. With that in mind, here are some species that are going to go extinct.

  1. Photographers
  2. Graphic Artists
  3. Authors
  4. Web Designers
  5. Poets
  6. Desktop Publishing

Just as forty years ago, printing was a booming business, today you would be hard pressed to find someone with a printing press. It seems the days of yesterday have vanished right before our eyes.

There needs to be some value, even if artificial to the creative trades that support many thousands of people today. Seems, there has been little value placed on really living. Most today are content with just existing, and have been existing like zombie cat shit.

That is no way to live. Some people say, “Be content just existing.” This is really a very harmful way to think. If one were to be content with just existing in any fashion available, life would be reduced to a prison cell; where people sit on a toilet in front of a big screen television, while eating and shitting simultaneously. We don’t want that kind of uniformity.

Life has to get better, and right quick. Something has to be done to make life better for everyone. There has to be some value placed on those in the creative arts, because that is where the future is at. Otherwise, employment will be reduced to nothing more than adult day care where they pay you to attend.

There has to be value in what we do, most people don’t understand the level of effort it takes to be really good at something. Most people are content with just so-so work, and content with entertainment that is just average.

The problems with the devaluation of life can not be tolerated, something has to be done to bring meaning, and value back into our lives. There are so many broken people in this world, that it’s going to take a miracle to heal them.

Really something has to change for the better. It has been rough going a long time. Most people today; they are all hurting. Who will help fix their pain, and make life better?

Really, people have to start being kind again. It has been far too long since people really cared about others. It is time for something to happen that changes all this. We have to start to see the value the creative arts have in our lives.

You don’t want to be content with just existing, because just existing with what ever conditions they will give you, wouldn’t make life better. Really we have to feel like we have some value in life. Our lives matter, and should be respected. Hence, something has to be done to make life better.

Society has lost its way in this world, people are not functional, and have not been having any fun. Really, we have to start having some fun with it. People are so polarized, it is starting to harm everyone that is living. Who can survive?

We have to be more than warm sacks of shit. However, it seems that is what they are trying to reduce us into being. If nothing else, the things that set us apart, are our talent, skill, and effort we put forth. Machines will never really have those things. Good thing too!

Do what you can, while you can do such. Life has to change, for the better. You know?

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Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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LifeStyle On Edge – Thoughts On A Pretty Good Day

On being like a tree

After a pretty good day, with nothing worse than a mild headache, it seems there are days that this living death is more bearable. Progress was made, and I’ve been thinking today about potential.

Well thinking about potential, and how to define success. Seems there are ways we forget what really matters. To be happy, sometimes we get close, so very close; yet it seems just not close enough.

The difference between genius and insanity is success.

Albert Einstein

How one defines success can be subjective. What is one persons success is someone else’s nightmare. Might depend upon what movies you watch. You know?

Been thinking about my definitions of what it means to me. I was out back smoking a cigarette, when an idea struck me. It didn’t hurt, as a matter of a fact, I laughed about it. The idea was this: working a nine to five job; is basically daycare where they pay you to be there.

In a world of alternative facts, it helps sometimes to have something concrete to measure by. I wonder what people in life really think? Seems so many today are close to success, they are close to being happy, close to being alive; yet, the distance is overwhelming to them.

How can you be so close, yet feel so unhappy? Seems the stuff that makes us happy, is elusive sometimes. And you think, someday; I’m going to catch that feeling.

Sometimes, my days are more productive than a dozen monks contemplating their navels. Other times, my days don’t get me very far. It seems, this lifestyle is on the edge of being close to what I want, yet; not close enough. There is no glass ceiling; however, there are some hard limits to what I can do.

Trying to work with what I have. Sometimes, I think about what I could do, or should be doing. I’m better off sometimes, with what I am doing. There is a sense of accomplishment from what I do. And the feeling that happiness is near, not far off. So close.

If you don’t count what you could have, or what you need; then where you are could be better than a lot of other options. I’ve given some thought to those who are happiest, and it seems those who need the least; while having all of their needs met, would be the best off.

I have some needs, not a lot. I’ve thought about how to make do with less. There are some parts of modern life, it’s not possible to live without. You shouldn’t even try.

Comforts

When a person has some comfort, and it suffices; then what more could one really need?

The problem is when comfort is lacking, and nothing will satisfy. The person that is happiest, is the ones that are the most content. But too much comfort is a burden. So there has to be balance.

Thus, how does one define success?

Those that are the most content, with the necessary comforts, without having burdens that are difficult.

-ctopher

Then again, one persons success would be another persons living hell. So there is difference of what works for each person. The secret is to find your spot without getting yourself into trouble.

Use good judgement. To each their own. Do not oppress your fellow men. Make life good for yourself while doing no harm to others of your kind.

Hence, I’ve learned something new. Or at least; explored a way to think about it. Having the philosophy to reason on, and the ideas lined up that make the most sense; that is the battle.

Seems, I could be happy; a lot has to change, somethings need to stay the same. There is no pleasing everyone all the time. Variety is important, and if you neglect it; you will be less happy.

This way of looking at it, makes sense to me. What do you think? Can you see the reason in the rhyme? But if you take a good look at my life, would you say: “He is successful?”

Maybe this life is training for us? You have to make good use of everything! Take the good training you get and put it to work for you, and the bad training you get; don’t do that junk.

Training twice as hard as real life would ever be.

Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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Philosophical Empowerment

Make Yourself Better!

Through reason, one can improve their life. You have to understand, without being able to reason, nothing else is of value. Or has very little value for very short periods of time. The mess society finds itself in today; what a mess!

phi·los·o·phy /fəˈläsəfē/ noun the study of the fundamental nature of knowledge, reality, and existence, especially when considered as an academic discipline.

-Google

You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure it out, the world it seems is however, really dumber than rocks. Pity! You would think, people would have some values in life. Seems what they value doesn’t hold much real meaning.

You have to wonder, if things that have the most meaning would have the most value? If so, does it really have value; or just the superficial belief that something has value? I’ve seen people try to pull the wool over our eyes before. So what gives?

I’m bored, hence the need to do some writing; despite the fact, no one is reading my work. Wish it were going better, I needed some encouragement to keep this insane pace going. Seems, no one will give a damn. How does a person change their life? How do you take something broken, and make it right? At what point does it not make it worthy of doing? How much is enough?

Seems a little broken can be mended, or healed. But breaking your dishes might mean you have to get new dishes. What if your heart is broken? Maybe you will find someone that will make it better, maybe with time, it will heal somewhat.

Be Wise, Live Smart!

There are some things that are difficult to heal from. You want to avoid those things as much as possible. Because being really broken is not going to be fun, pleasant, or fulfilling. It’s better to get what enjoyment you can from life without doing real damage to yourself.

That said, there are some things you want to avoid at all costs. Anything that makes it difficult to think now, or in the future may not be advantageous to your long term interests.

You want to take care of your long term interests, so that they may reward you someday in the future. That would be showing some sign of wisdom. You want to be wise, right?

Take care of yourself. Suffering because you didn’t isn’t smart. You want better than that, if you can possibly avoid it; do such at all costs.

Better to think a little more than they want you to, then not think at all. You know? Sometimes, people lead you down the wrong rabbit hole, because they are ruthless cruel. Beware! Have some care. Know the difference, so you can live to tell the tale.

Use your mind, and empower yourself beyond what most of the herd is doing. You have to get smart, like right quick; before its too late!

In short; don’t use drugs in this life, or this world. It’s not worth the hassle. If they screw your mind up, the cost if far too high, and recovery is almost impossible. You got stuff to do, and a lot more to live for than what comes with that ball of wax.

Conclusion

Empower yourself through philosophical reasoning. The benefits in the long run, will be worth more than gold. And you can thank me for the advice, because you will be a lot happier in the long run too!

Hope this clears up some of the issues in your head. At least on these subjects. There is a lot to cover, read my whole blog to learn more. You will be happy you did!

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Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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A Brief Guide On How To Write

The Basics In A Nutshell

In simple terms, writing is thinking for your audience. They are going to have to think every word you write. Therefore, your authors voice has to be easy and gentile enough that the reader can understand it.

People in general, they don’t like to have to think too much. So if your writing can be a guide to helping them think, so much the better. However, your authors voice has to be enjoyable to endure thinking what you say.

In the simple terms, you have to make a nice thoughts connected with enough thoughts that the reader can picture, and sense the environment you want them to experience.

So write nice, and make the reader enjoy thinking what you write. If you can write clearly, then the reader will enjoy thinking what you wrote.

Conclusion

In simple terms, that is the idea in a nutshell. So be kind, write in such a way people will enjoy thinking what you wrote.

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In The Flux – My Digital Chaos

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It has been a few days since I wrote, and I’ve just finished a project that I want to talk about with you. My new video is out on YouTube now, and my feelings are it turned out pretty darn good. It started with an idea, about the meaning of being lost, and finding one’s self again.

It finishes with the idea that life is short, and we have to take care of ourselves, and others. Really there are some things I wish to have known much sooner. Yet, life is what it is. We all learn sooner or later, some of us don’t learn until it’s almost too late.

Don’t make the mistakes I did, life is too short. Make good use of your time, make good use of your life. You want to be a lot better off than I am at my age. Being forty-six, and having seen some rough decades of life, I can tell you; be wise.

Here is the video embedded from YouTube:

In The Flux – My Digital Chaos

In The Flux – My Digital Chaos

This video turned out fairly well. It is a short project, and shouldn’t be too painful to watch. You might have to deal with my making music; however, I’m sure you can endure the three minutes of video.

Not much going on, life is. Things are. Trying to deal with that. Maybe tomorrow will be better than today was? That would be very good indeed! Not sure what project will be waiting for me tomorrow.

Maybe I will get to sleep in? That would be nice. See my other project, My Day to see my days in photos. You can view the list view and see the collection of the days I have completed.

Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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8 Steps to Beautify Your Heart, Mind, and Soul To Be Happier

Start Today!!

Life is not always pretty, and to keep our minds in good condition, sometimes it is necessary to do some maintenance. Recently I was thinking about what qualities I want to have and seek in others.

Thus, this article was born from the thoughts of how to beautify my mind. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, however sometimes, life makes a mess. So it is important to clean the messes up; sometimes after yourself, sometimes after others.

I went searching for what others had written, I found this article: Traits of a beautiful mind, by JC Wandemberg Ph.D., he has a mind, and the ability to reason, however the article’s focus is on low level subjects. Really his article would be the foundation of this article.

My goal is to provide something a bit more high level, an overview of some of the subjects that matter to me. Really having a beautiful mind is about how you adapt, and grow. There is a lot more than that to it, what you put into your mind matters, and having a beautiful mind is about cleaning up the mess after yourself and others.

There are some subjects that put beauty back into life, some of them are not only necessary, but essential.

Music

Music is an important part of life. Really the music one has in their life, makes all the difference in the world. You need music that makes you feel something, that makes you believe, and brings hope.

Music adds to the beauty of life. It can bring a lot of enjoyment to living, and makes life more interesting. Having a good selection of music matters, and being able to pick what you want to listen to, when you want it, is important.

Art

Having art in your life is important. There are many branches of art that you can experience, and sometimes you have to create your own. Being creative is a sign of intelligence. Both having art in your life, and creating your own art matters a lot.

Art gives you perspective, and new ideas. It helps to show something someone else believes is beautiful. And really having a beautiful mind is about seeing the beauty in life.

Philosophy

Having some philosophy in your life matters. It helps set standards, and a base for your future self. It can give you a foundation that makes life worth living. When you live by a philosophy that makes your life better, then you have something solid to exist upon.

Books

When you have a selection to pick from, and have content that makes your life feel hopeful, and gives you peace of mind, there is nothing like that. Really reading books is a window into the experience of others, both what they find beautiful and what they find to be a problem in life. Reading books opens your mind to new ways of thinking, and shows you a path of thinking that will add enjoyment to your life.

Theater

The theater is a place where magic happens, regardless of if you like watching the TV, or actually going to see a live performance, these experiences make life better, as they give you something that will open your eyes to life.

There is a feeling about seeing a live performance that makes you feel something, and the good ones always give you something to think about.

Love

Without love, life isn’t worth much. Having some love in your life is going to make a huge difference in your life. Today, all too often people say they love someone, even when they don’t actually feel anything. That is a problem. To really feel love, that makes you have a positive emotion from the experience matters an awful lot.

Having some real, true love will make your life worthy of living. When you feel loved, and can show love to others, this is simply not replaceable. There is nothing like that. It will improve your life, make life worth living, and add enjoyment to your life.

Kindness

Being kind, even when others don’t know how to be such; this is really important. They say, you reap what you sow. My belief is that is true, thus; if you are kind, you will receive kindness in return. Being kind is a wise choice, because you will see the benefits from doing such in the ways others treat you.

Don’t fail to be kind to others, and yourself. This will add to the beauty of your life, make your life better, and make others lives more beautiful. This is a win/win situation. Don’t neglect being kind to others. You will thank yourself for doing such.

Patience

Having patience in times that are tough, it will make your life better, because not everything happens right away. You have to be patient, with yourself, and others. Having the right frame of mind to be patient matters, because when you have patience, you can find the ability to get into the zone, and have those magic moments. If you are not patient, then it robs you of your happiness, and the moments you could be enjoying life.

Conclusion

What you put into your mind matters, sometimes you have to take the trash out, and always plant gardens in your heart, mind, and soul. It is easier to plant gardens and take the weeds out, then to allow your life to decay into wretchedness. Maintain your beautiful mind, and reap the rewards of having a life worthy of living.

Life is not always pretty, and you have to put some beauty back into life. Because if people only take, then there will be a shortage someday, you have to be willing to put something back into the life we have.

Practice making life great. If you want today to be better than yesterday, you have to take action to making life better. Do what you can, there is the power to change your life, for the better. If you believe it is possible, then you can do it.

Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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From A Dark Place

Towards The Light

Mercury is out of retrograde. Thank goodness, that is over now. Maybe life will get moving in the right direction now? Maybe! I am bored right now, thus writing for the enjoyment of writing, without regard to real purpose or having something real important to say.

It does seem, to me, even if I had something important to say; no one would listen. They seem to have no way to value my effort, as though it doesn’t mean much of anything to them.

Bored with the status of my life, bored with the way this life has been treating me; life has been kicking my dog, going to have to do something about that damn cat!

Not much going on. I feel better now, mercury is out of retrograde, and it was a rough few weeks with that one. Maybe other people will lighten up now, and life will start to be better again? One can hope!

I’ve been working on a few projects, some of them are coming alone rather well. My project for my day in photos; it is done, been posting everyday to the site. If you want to check it out: My Day.

My other projects are going well. Finished some tough javascript problems this morning, and have solved most all of them with a very clever working solution. I’m happy about that. My site, Misfit.Ctopher.Me is coming along very well, it’s not really getting any traffic, but its been over a year in development. I do have a few other projects with that site, things I would like to do with it.

My other project, Lord knows; it needs a lot of help. It is a good idea, but it will require a lot of development to reach the status I’m looking for. Seems my projects have all met their maker. Wish they could meet you too!

I’m bored. Not much going on. Been isolated a lot, I mean; an awful lot the last month has been rough going. I am productive, but my social life is not looking all that good. I’m not really sure how to fix the damn problem. You would think, someone would have cared by now? Seems it’s a pity that life is like it is. It could have been really good. You know?

Life has to change, for the better. It has been rough going, the last twenty years; they have all been rough. It has made me tough, it might have also made me mean, but that is subjective.

Not much going on, I cooked a meal tonight. Roast beef melt with cheese, horseradish, and onion. It was good, I ate it before I could photograph it, I guess that I wasn’t thinking when I sat down to eat it, because I forgot to take a photo. These digital lifestyles can get difficult to keep up with, after a while, I guess you get into the habit.

I had other things on my mind, and not going to elaborate on that.

Bored! Life is, Things are. Trying to find some way to deal with that concept. It is easy to deal with, if you have the right frame of mind. Sometimes, it helps to be accepting of the situation, that things are the way that they are, and deal with it.

Still, I have some parts of my life, I would really like to see change for the better. I’m not sure, it seems my dreams have become stale, and I’m working on finding some new dreams. I’ve been avoiding making music for a few months now, I would like to get back into the groove; but it seems a ways off.

I have mostly been doing heavy duty programming the last month, with a few projects completed, I’m even learning javascript. That is something I have put off, like twenty years. I have found that I’m getting the hang of it these days. Thank goodness for Google.

The dogs are happy, if life wasn’t kicking them. Going to have to do something about that cat! Bring your dog, he can play the wolf for the evening. We have two spoiled doggies, that could use some time with another doggie.

Bored. I’ve been putting off writing for a month now, mostly because; no one reads, regardless of how much effort I put into it, or how well I’m writing, it seems no one cares anymore.

I had hoped that my writing would have proved my sanity, somehow, that seems impossible. They don’t give a damn about my effort. Pity, I wanted my life better, and I wanted it a long time ago.

I’ve lost weight, I am now down to about 167, which I am very happy about. Its starting to feel good to be thin again. It has been twenty years since I was down to this weight. I’m glad it has started coming off. It is a big relief to be losing weight.

My hair is long these days, and I am happier than I have been in fifteen years. That is doing really very well, from where I’ve been, I can say that I’ve come an awful long ways from where I was.

Christopher Thomas 2021

This photo was from a few weeks ago. My hair has gotten long, much longer than it has ever been. That is for sure. I keep the sides short, and the back short too. It is almost 12″ on top. I think its a nice look. Now, if I could only get a job, I need a job man.

That is about the summary. Life, in a nutshell.

Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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Why Quality Food Matters and Makes Life Enjoyable

You Get Hungry Sometimes. . .

Having something to eat is a good thing. Having really good food is important; as it adds to the quality of life that you can live. When the food is just bland, dull, and frozen; it isn’t as good as having a fresh cooked meal that tastes delicious.

You can improve the quality of life you have by eating good food. Really if you are only getting your food from a drive-thru, you are missing out on some real living.

The flavor of food matters, the ingredients have be fresh, and well prepared. Because it has to stir your taste buds into believing that eating is worthy of doing. When the food isn’t as good as it should be, your taste buds see no reason to eat that junk.

Really good food adds a lot of enjoyment to living, and having a quality lifestyle. In today’s world, having some lifestyle makes all the difference in the world. Just existing as a boujee, isn’t really living well. The quality of food you can get, shouldn’t have to be expensive to eat well. You would think, in today’s modern world; food would be the last of our problems.

Seems, the world doesn’t want people to live well. Our shopping options are limited, and without having access to the best, we get complacent and settle for what we can get our hands on. Really we should be eating better than this, there is no excuse for the way things are.

Wake Up!

You want the food to stir your desire to live, you want the food you eat to be enjoyable. Eating is something everyone has to do at least once a day, and the process should be something that you enjoy doing.

Frozen food, it just doesn’t have the same appeal that a home cooked meal has with it. It isn’t as enjoyable to eat something that was frozen, heated up, and served like a dish that was cold. It doesn’t stir your senses. It doesn’t wake your taste buds up from a long slumber.

We want to eat food that tastes really good. We want to eat something delicious. For that to happen, someone is going to have to cook. I’m not sure how we can really eat better, but I know for a fact, it is possible. It could happen, and I don’t believe that is being grandiose about wanting better food to eat. It doesn’t have to be expensive, it just has to taste really good.

Conclusion

Everyone should be able to have a good quality of life, and what you eat matters, it adds a lot of enjoyment to your life. It also adds some culture, and a dash of variety to your life. Really, you eat the same stuff too long, pretty soon it all tastes so darn bland and dull. There has to be some variety in what we eat, and the enjoyment that we get from it.

At least there is coffee. Coffee always works.

Written by Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit

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Posse Bonus Post, Something Happy?

This is your posse bonus post this month. This photo of the dolphins was just too much to pass up, I had to post it. It is just so darn cool. Wish that I could get some dolphin time, alas life is.

There is some good to be had, if you look for it; sometimes, you have to really do some searching to find it. It is out there, like a formula hiding in plain sight. Some fractals are easier than others.

It has been snowing the last twenty-four hours. Nothing major, just some snow flurries. It has been a nice change, this winter is being kind thus far. New year, seems like the life we want is playing hide-and-seek from us. Pity!

Music is keeping me company, and running at more than 50%, I’ve been busy working on my site: Misfit.Ctopher.Me. It now has a feature to “Like” the photos in the main page, and keeps count of how many likes each post gets. It wasn’t too difficult, took me two days of effort to make it happen. I’m glad it worked out, I think its pretty cool, and neat stuff.

Not much going on; it seems, no matter how much effort I put forth, it is all going into a huge vacuum. Where is everyone at? They must be watching TV, or playing video games. I hope they are out having fun, that would be good. Life is meant to be lived; you should live it to the max!

Seems, I’ve been in a better mood the last few days; times are tough, life is rough. Wish it were going to get a lot better, right quick too! Thank God there is music; I would be so lost, banging on trash cans; trying to make music.

The human race, seems to be going in circles. No one can make their minds up about much of anything. Pity! Maybe it will get better for everyone one of these days, real soon!

Haven’t heard from anyone in months. It is a lot of isolation. More than my fair share; you want some? If I could bottle and sell isolation to people for a profit, wow; that would be something! I have plenty of it; if you want some, write me!

Photo Credit: Mike Palmowski – Unsplash

If only my isolation felt as good as this photo looks, I could use some of that, maybe just dangling my feet off the cliff looks good to me. How mighty the truth can be! Nature doesn’t lie.

I made a video, you should check it out; I think it is really very good. It is on YouTube, and here is the embedded version, if you want to watch it now!

This was my latest project, which I spent an afternoon working on, and a few cups of coffee to complete. I think, it turned out really very well. Some people, think my voice isn’t very good; like to see them smoke two packs a day and still have a voice.

Trying to find meaning; seems this world is made of poison, trying not to let the haters make me meaner than I already am. Life needed to change, and for the better. Such is life.

Have to let this make me better, working towards some goals. I would like to see some results from my effort, yet; everyone is so darn busy these days, seems they don’t have time for me.

Read all the great posts on my blog, some of my writing has gotten a lot better, I feel my progress is very likely, REMARKABLE. If you saw my writing a few years ago, compared to my current work; I think it has come a long ways in the last month.

Have a nice day!! Thanks for reading!!

Written by Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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What Is Advantageous?

Not All Things Are Advantageous

What is advantageous in this world? After giving it some level of thought, there are some points I can make about this subject.

  1. The most advantageous options are ones that don’t have a disadvantage.

Seems everyone has some dis-advantage in life, but how we deal with them determine how much of a dis-advantage it really is. What may stop one person in their tracks is nothing more than a mild inconvenience to others. So the conditioning that people have and how their minds work may determine how we handle problems.

There are things that have positive effects, with no down side. Drinking a cup of coffee when you wake up has the advantage of helping you wake up. However, drinking ten cups of coffee before trying to go to sleep has a real downside.

So you have to be smart enough to understand cause and effect, and knowing when, what, where, and how.

I was standing the shower thinking about this, and some song by Janes Addiction came to mind. “What is advantageous?” Some things look good, some things feel good, some things are painful. What advantage is there in life? Seems we should be able to make use of most things in life. Turns water to coldest possible setting, that will wake you up.

Laying on the sofa giving it further thought, what really is advantageous in life? It seems some things are good for us, some things aren’t so good for us. Having a society that is sober and drug free, has some advantage. If everyone was drunk or drugged out of their minds, society wouldn’t function very well.

At the same time, just as people think smoking cigarettes is a major disadvantage, as they feel getting sick and dying isn’t an advantage; it seems at some point in the lives of everyone living; they all eventually get sick and die.

So what is advantageous? That which never puts you at a dis-advantage. Then, how does anyone make it through life? Seems everyone at some point is faced with something that challenges them to grow, to learn, and to adapt.

Anything that puts you at a long term dis-advantage would be likely a very bad thing. Some people aren’t given choices in the matter, which is because life can be very unfair. So it is advantageous to do things that improve your life.

I think something that is advantageous would be something that would have good results if anyone were to do so well. There are some things that some people do better than others, so knowing your abilities helps a lot. Not everyone is going to benefit from jumping out of an airplane at twenty thousand feet. Some may find it is very beneficial; some people may find it a career limiting maneuver. To each their own, do everything within your abilities.

Doing what is best, requires that a person have the ability to reason and use logic to understand the full effects of their actions; long before they set out to make something happen.

What advantage is there in being poor? Seems in the long run, its usually a dis-advantage. Yet, some people have come from poverty to rise in life, and do very well for themselves. They learned that they must work for what they want, and have standards.

So poverty in itself isn’t really anything more than a setback. While, being totally stupid; is a major disadvantage. It’s pretty tough to get smarter when you’re as dumb as a rock.

There might be an upside to it; but only as long as you believe that ignorance is bliss.

Do what is advantageous for everyone in the long run, and society will benefit for a long time. You have to have understanding about cause and effect; and the long term goals that need to be accomplished. Anything that has long term dis-advantages would be something to avoid at all costs.

Be wise, feed your head; just make sure it’s not poison.

Sometimes in life, it seems you are screwed no matter what course of action you take, go left; you are screwed. Go right; you are screwed. You are not able to go back; the only thing you can do is go strait. Be brave; have courage. Live so well, no one will ever say you didn’t try.

At some point; everyone will find some problem in life, how you deal with it; that is what matters. Some people train their whole lives for one moment. Do what you can to make life better for everyone.

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Written By Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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Thoughts About Value, Meaning, and Being Of Worth To Others

Finding Real Reasons To Live

What is value today in the minds of most people? It seems they respect money, power, and the illusions of grander. What could they find about someone like me to value? It certainly wouldn’t be my status, it wouldn’t be the money I have in the bank.

There are not many friends in my life, even fewer that know me. Seems I have existed as a ghost in this world for some twenty years, living like some misfit that doesn’t know better. Yet, you would be hard pressed to understand my point of view, such things only happen after you have fallen from grace; and learned some tough lessons the difficult way.

Seems there was nothing to protect me from my fall. In some ways, I had it all some twenty years ago; yet nothing I had was enough to protect me from the fall I have taken. So what does one do when there seems to be nothing of this world that can prevent what you have from being taken from you? Seems awful unfair if you ask me.

If you have known tough times, you might find some value in what I have had to say in my writing. I’m not sure how many would understand my point of view, seems the world today; most people don’t have many first world problems to really deal with.

Of what I have had to endure; they have denied me my honor, my dignity, and taken my self respect. Seems the basic functions of my life have been under attack for more than twenty years. Sometimes, I have reason to believe they did it all to hurt me. That may be true; that they are really so ruthless that they only wanted to hurt me.

Living my life will open your eyes, it would be enough to make you loose faith in humanity in whole. Seems the way this has been, there is nothing they could ever do to make it up to me. I have to wonder after having been treated like I have been, if they human race has any value? Maybe some value; but for people that claim to know their worth and treat me like I have none, isn’t very respectful.

If you know your value; and you treat other people as though they have none, maybe your pride is in the way of being a respectable being. Really what kind of value could you have to be able to treat others as though they have none? Seems people have lost their kindness in ways that leave the human race wanting of reason.

The world is a mess, and these days the problems aren’t getting better. Many today have become cruel, or living in total despair; of what kind of life have we created in this world that these problems are permitted to continue like this?

Life has to get a lot better. You may agree with me about that. If you are not in agreement with that idea, how can you live with yourself in this world and still be a respectable person? Are you blind to the problem? Wake up!

Wake Up!

Really value only comes from the whole having value, when there are those that are treated like they don’t really matter; that takes away from the value of the whole. For the whole to be the most valuable, everyone has to be treated like they matter, respected, and have their dignity intact.

So many today have allowed their lives to be as Charles Bukowski said, “Clubbed into dank submission.” Most people are not really more than warm sacks of shit. Pity, because life is meant to be lived, and too many today want to take even that away from us. I’m not sure what kind of life they want to live, seems to me; it’s not more than a living death.

Do what makes you feel alive. Value is more than meets the eye, somehow we have to get through to them, reach their hearts and minds; to make them believe that not everyone is going to tolerate being treated like a warm sack of shit.

If you know your value, and you treat anyone as though they have less value than you have; what does that say about you? Humans should remember, that they are all living clay, and not be superior to those that are their own kind, even more so they should respect those who are above them.

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Written by Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit