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The New Economy And The Demise Of Startups – How To Protect Yourself

The last twenty years have been really interesting. Much has changed, or taken shape with technology and digital lifestyles. The innovation that has taken place has been truly groundbreaking. I don’t want to leave you heartbroken, there is news.

The End

The days of the startups will end. The period of innovation and mass drain on people’s finances has all taken serious performance hits. People need sure bets, they need stability, and staying power. The days of startups in today’s market place will begin to fade away.

From what I can see, last time I heard; 90% of startups these days will fail and go under. That is not a good statistic. The days of venture capital and unchecked funding will subside. There has to be a more sure fire, well backed plan in place. Most people can not afford the luxuries we already have, and the economy is not showing signs of getting better.

It’s unfortunate these situations has led to the problems we have today. In some ways, it sure was fun, and a lot of people were able to make some money from it. We do however have to get back to doing things correctly. There has to be some way to still innovate and create new, with the financial security and comfort of a solid foundation to work from.

We need to get back to having stable companies that do an honest days work, and do such very well. The point is: They have to be doing something really good, to the point; they do it better than everyone else.

My thoughts are, a lot of these startup companies will be scooped up by other larger companies, that are more profitable and will integrate their business models accordingly. You want to find rock solid companies to work for, those that have shown years of performance and healthy work environments.

The days of the free for all startup companies is closing quickly. Find somewhere that has serious stability and profits to take shelter from the storms. Many of the small startups will be bought up and either re-worked, or seriously scaled down in talent. There may be some hope, if you are very talented; that they will bring you on board.

You have to plan for a future that will be different. Most of what we are seeing today; is the crumbling of our fabric of society. Plan accordingly.

Overspecialize and your breed incompetence and weak skill sets. You need people that are good at doing everything very well, with a smile. The future is changing rapidly.

Work towards having a better foundation to work with.

Written by: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

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A Brief Guide On How To Write

The Basics In A Nutshell

In simple terms, writing is thinking for your audience. They are going to have to think every word you write. Therefore, your authors voice has to be easy and gentile enough that the reader can understand it.

People in general, they don’t like to have to think too much. So if your writing can be a guide to helping them think, so much the better. However, your authors voice has to be enjoyable to endure thinking what you say.

In the simple terms, you have to make a nice thoughts connected with enough thoughts that the reader can picture, and sense the environment you want them to experience.

So write nice, and make the reader enjoy thinking what you write. If you can write clearly, then the reader will enjoy thinking what you wrote.

Conclusion

In simple terms, that is the idea in a nutshell. So be kind, write in such a way people will enjoy thinking what you wrote.

Written By: Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

Photo Credit: Photo by Matias North on Unsplash

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Depressed because of Bots, Buggers & Digital Oppression?

I hate bots, digital oppression and some mad buggers wall

In the digital age, life used to be a lot better. These days, you have to really be special to get found, read, or anyone to listen to you. There are so many writers these days, it is like a flood of text upon our screens. There is however another problem.

The search engines, and all the digital social media sites these days are using algorithms to select what to show everyone. Trying to be found is almost impossible these days. The problem with the bots is this; they care nothing about quality of content. They don’t even know how to determine the quality of the content.

I have struggled for about three years in trying to get discovered, my efforts have been futile. As Pink Floyd said in their song, on the album The Wall:

Banging your heart against some mad buggers wall

Pink Floyd – The Wall

Isn’t that what we are doing, is banging our hearts against some mad buggers wall? Seems like such futile pursuits; it seems almost pointless to continue; not unless they want to give us a sledgehammer. That might be worthy of doing, but just your heart and mind; the wall will win.

I hate the bots, because they are causing a great deal of digital oppression in the market place. It seems impossible to get anyone to notice your work, and even more difficult for anyone to care. The problem with human apathy is that they have ceased to give a damn. Everyone is unhappy about something.

What I’m unhappy about is the fact, no matter how much effort I put forth, no matter how good my content is, no one will ever see it. Makes me wonder why I’m doing it in the first place? I have my reasons I guess, it would however be nice if people were to notice my effort.

With what I have to work with, seems these days; it is pointless to try breaking into the writing market. Just totally worthless, because the amount of effort required to do such is beyond what is reasonable.

Beyond What Is Reasonable

The effort required to make it work, is far beyond what you could reasonably expect one person to do on their own. If you had a team of people that were all certified professionals, you might be able to make some progress, maybe someday.

However, what just one person can do on their own; it seems impossible. Seems even with the best SEO you can get, this project is never going to do very well. I don’t have any friends that follow my work; so the search engines don’t see any interest in my project at all. Like, zero.

I have made videos about the need to mobilize some people to doing something for me, yet, no one watches them. Pity; the situation is so darn dire, that a person in my situation would be better off making snow covered poo and selling it on the corner.

The situation with the AI bots, the algorithms, and the in-humane way that we are being treated does not bode well for the future of what the human race is going to be doing in ten years. Because the current situation is impossible to deal with. There is no clear path to victory, no clear path to success.

Something has to be done to make this feel less impossible. If I had seen progress in my projects, I could at least take comfort in that, however there has been no winning in years. From what I can see, this situation will not get any better with time. Zero.

I want to know who in the world wrote these algorithms, and what they were thinking when they created them, because it seems like total discrimination to me. It is oppressive in the extreme. Pity, they don’t want a nice world, they want robots, warm sacks of shit, and mindless idiots.

Some Wall

I wanted a better world, no one has offered something better than what I’m currently doing, there are no other path to take, yet, I’m banging my heart against some mad buggers wall, and the result is day by day, I’m becoming more and more frustrated. Maybe if I had started these projects twenty years ago, then maybe I could have seen success by now. As it is, it seems pointless, futile, and worthless to anyone but myself.

It does have some value, I enjoy what I do. I do enjoy it. I doubt in my life like things are, that there would be anything else I could be doing like this. I have to wonder, if in twenty years, I will still be sitting behind a keyboard trying bang my heart against some mad buggers wall?

Maybe I should be building my own wall? That would be a day. But some worm would only order they be torn down. Pity. Maybe the artists will gather round, and show some support when it all comes crashing down? Well, here I am; waiting for you to find me, maybe send me a message, I don’t bite hard.

Conclusion

Should you find yourself banging your heart against some mad buggers wall, don’t despair, have some hope; it might get better, you never know; someone might show up with a real hammer someday.

Don’t give up, keep going. Maybe you will find a use for it someday? Maybe. Make good use of everything you do. If you find me, maybe we will get a cup of coffee and talk about the day the walls came down.

Written by Christopher Thomas, A Real Misfit!

Photo Credit: Photo by Jehyun Sung on Unsplash

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Blocking Blue Light

Blocking Blue Light With Glasses

If you use a computer or device for very long you are likely being exposed to blue light. This blue light has some effects on your mood and well being. Prolonged exposure to blue light can effect your sleep and make you cranky. So how do you block blue light from reaching your eyes?

Blue light can effect the amount of melatonin and effect your sleep if you use screens after dark, or for long periods during the day time. This can hurt your eyes too.

The solution is to wear glasses that block blue light from reaching your eyes. While there are a lot of these glasses on the market these days, I have a favorite. The glasses made by Gunnar in my humble opinion are the very best you can get.

I’ve had the same pair for more than five years. They work wonders for me. To be honest, it would be difficult to imagine my life with out my Gunnar glasses. The amber lens have changed my view to something much better. When I wear them, I feel better.

Blue Light Everywhere

Often I wear them everywhere I go. Because I’m sensitive to blue light as it is, and having something that blocks this light helps me to be more functional.

This article from Harvard describes the effects of blue light and what you can do to minimize the effects on your body. Take my advice and get a pair of Gunnar glasses to block blue light today.

In conclusion, blocking blue light can help you feel better. You can get the best blue light blocking glasses from Gunnar.com. They have a wide variety of styles and colors, with some really cool designs. Get yours today! Therefore you will show how smart you are and look like it too!

Your eyes will thank you, and maybe you will feel better soon.

Photograph by: Christopher Thomas, Founder MyDigitalChaos.net

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Geek Tips – Five Design Points

5 Points Geeks Should Consider

a non technical article with valuable points

Web Design has come a long ways since the days of 1997. A lot has changed, some for the better. It seems we have rockets compared to the tools of old. Back in the days when we were coding html by hand and didn’t have the use of stylesheets. What we have today doesn’t require rocket science, just a passion to learn. Here are five design points to consider.

All that has changed now. We live in world where the tools to make magic happen are available to everyone and almost anyone. Anyone that can teach themselves and has the patience to stick with it can learn the basic in a few weeks.

For some of us that are more hard headed it may take longer. That doesn’t mean it’s not possible to really get the hang of things. It is however still very possible. Not only possible, but very practice. Learning how to do this kind of work can build skills in the rest of your life.

While you may feel like it’s not much fun in the beginning, once you start to develop skills then it’s like a fix that you have a difficult time getting enough.

While it’s taken me two years to adapt to the changes of today’s modern web design standards. There are some things that will make life easier for everyone. Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change. Hope it’s possible to unlearn the old ways.

With that said here are a few things that can help or hinder your progress in web design.

Negative Space

Beware of your use of negative spaces. In some design aspects they can be very useful. However you have to really look at the design as a whole and understand it completely.

Are you making full use of the whole page? Does it scale for mobile and still use the whole page? My findings are that people really like phones, but they aren’t too hip when it comes to using a computer.

Take this into consideration when designing your sites. Don’t use too much negative space in your designs.

And it has to scale for use on mobile ready devices. My thoughts in the matter is that there will be two groups of people. Mass consumers who use smart phones, and the Geeks that rule using high res displays attached to Terabytes of storage.

Typography

Please designers, do not neglect your typography. Because, this is really important. There are plenty of design solutions available today to meet or exceed your design requirements.

This means using fonts and actually designing your site to use the fonts in the ways that maximize your design. Gone are the days of html 1. Even web 2.0 is now obsolete. You have to adapt to new ways of making things look great.

Pick your fonts out and design your whole site to look and feel throughout the entire site. Design matters, and typography is key these days. Make good use of fonts and design for using them.

Photography

To be successful in todays internet market, you have to be able to take great photographs. You have to be able to have some WoW factor to your work. It’s advanced a lot. In addition you not only have to have good photography skills. Not only that but you also have to understand aspect ratios to make graphics that look good on your blog. Then it has to look great when shared on social media.

This requires knowing how to make the right size graphics that will port from your blog or website to the social media giants standards that will keep the content looking professional.

Don’t make the mistake of posting work to your blog only to have it shared to social media and look like junk.

A very useful webpage for design aspects and ratios is found here (Image Sizes For Social Media) and you will find it useful to make your graphics based upon these sizes depending upon where you want to be putting them.

You need to be a photoshop pro with today’s current tools and be able to maximize the look and feel for your images. The best results will be from work that makes the view feel something.

No feeling, very little response rate. Make them feel something, and you will get better results. The best thing to do is make them feel good, not bad. However if you focus on the good you will get better results.

Color Pallets

When designing your site. You have to think about the entire theme of your site, this includes what color pallet your viewers are going to be seeing. You want to pick a suggestive color pallet that leaves a calm and relaxed viewer.

While there is room for attention grabbing headlines, it’s best to stick to black for those. Using today’s available tools, pick a color pallet of at least twenty colors. Then decide what purpose each will have before you design. Staying consistent with your colors is key. While from page to page has to stay consistent you also have to wow the viewer with enough color that they feel alive.

Things to avoid are using fonts for text that have poor contrast from the background. Readers will tune out so fast that you will lose them all right quick. You have to have good color balance and make it easy on the eyes to read. I would avoid text in shades of red for more than just a headline and never body of text in red.

Dynamic Designs

Be creative. Don’t design static pages that look the same every time they are viewed. However keep the refresh rate low and design to be stable. Using content from your social media sources or using content from a randomized array that has been designed to group together is best. Update to dynamic content can be both content that stays the same for days or weeks, mixed with fresh work mixed into it on a per page view basis.

However don’t move the important content all over the site. Pages should keep content that is important in the same format and place for the entire duration of the websites life time. Therefore, consider these five design points, carefully!

Archive your websites. Save. Keep. Recycle. Update new stuff and move old stuff to the back of the board.

Really the goal should be to keep it simple, dynamic, fun, and stable. People have to be able to come back to the same point for the content they need most. Don’t move things around too much. Once you set it, pretend it’s set in stone.

Conclusion

Therefore, keep these Geek Tips in mind, they are good design points to consider. There are a lot of people that write technical content, but this should suffice as a high level overview of some of the things to consider when doing technical design work.

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Creative Fuel – Guide To Success

How to have more creative fuel to burn

In order to be really creative, you have to have some fuel to burn. It is the process of using this creative fuel to create new work that produces a work of art. But if you are on empty how in the world do you fill back up?

You should prime yourself with this article about Calibrating For Success, then make use of this article.

The process is different for different people. However there are some things that will help inspire you if you use them correctly. Sometimes you have to fill the tank with good stuff. Other times you have to starve the beast and let hunger do the job.

Sometimes, you have to a little of both. So what works for me is that of careful meditation. By using a thoughtful approach I’m able to have creative fuel, and burn enough that work is completed.

Have More Than One Project In The Fire

Sometimes it helps to have multiple projects. This gives you a backup plan for when things don’t go as expected. By having more than one project to work on, you can stay busy and keep your flow going. Being able to do other projects also enables you to learn new skills. If you are always pushing new boundaries then you always be growing.

If you learn new skills you will find they come in handy in other areas of your work. It all adds up in the long run.

Do More Than Humanly Possible

You have to be doing a great deal of work. This requires doing more than humanly possible on a regular basis. You have to get to be so darn good that people take notice of you and your work.

If you plan carefully, it is possible. You have to be diligent and calm and relaxed. Then you have to work your butt off like never before. It is possible, you just have to be willing to do what is difficult.

Therefore, if you starve yourself from unnecessary activity, you have more time to do good stuff.

Be Careful What You Use For Creative Fuel

Too much TV will bum you out. Try listening to a lot of music. Change your music up enough that you are listening to old and new music from a wide variety of genres. Try listening to classical when you are sleeping at night. Its a great way to effect your dreams and your mood.

Therefore, these are some tips to get you started. Find out what works for you.

Written by Christopher Thomas

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How to use technology to calibrate yourself

You can do this!!

We have a lot of tools at our disposal, the question is: Are we using them? Likely the answer is no. However we should! So ask yourself how to use your technology tools to calibrate yourself for success.

Your Phone

This is your greatest tool. Your phone is likely the most under used tool you have in your toolbox. Everyone has one, but no one is using them to make phone calls. Try to dial your contacts, and start the conversation.

Email – Use Wisely

Your email is a good tool to follow up those phone calls with. Send them the details, or more information. Be sure to ask for their email address when you are talking with them on the phone. Prepare them by telling them your email address so they expect that email coming from you.

Close the deal on the phone while talking with them. Then get their signature in writing.

The Calendar – Remember this!

The calendar is a tool that you can use to schedule appointments with. If you are planning in advance, you should have the important dates scheduled here.

There is no excuse for missing appointments! Because if you are using your tools, you won’t miss the date!

Text Messages – The instant mess!

Don’t use text messages to communicate important ideas and information. Its best to do this verbally over the phone. If you don’t want an instant mess, use sparingly. Therefore, use your tools for what they work for. Don’t expect people to know you from texting.

Having A Website

Chances are the only people that will visit your website are people you talk on the phone with, or have sent an email to. No one else is going to find your site online. So tell people about your website in person, on the phone, and via email.

Therefore, don’t expect miracles. Even with a good website, you likely won’t see results. You should plan on closing deals in person.

In Conclusion

Use all your tools correctly with a thorough understanding of them, and when and where to use each one. Therefore you can be successful, if you use them wisely. Be wise, use your mind!

Use your technology to calibrate yourself to success.

Written by Christopher Thomas, Founder of MyDigitalChaos

Photo Credit: Photo by Patrick Lindenberg on Unsplash

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Instagram Style Guides Needed For Poets

Just Some Thoughts About What I see

There should be some style. Everyone needs some style. However what my goal to write about here today is style on Instagram. There are many poets and artists that have inspired me. Not only inspired me to do better, but to think better. Or even dare I say to think that more is possible.

However there are some style issues that need addressed by some of the people that are writing about their vile hate, and discontent with a particular person and addressing the messages to the entire audience. A good solution to this would be Instagram Style Guides.

You never know what kind of day someone else might be having, or what kind of hurt, sorrow, or pain they may be under. Poets should be careful that in cases where they are hurting, that they do not address pain to the entire audience. Either be specific, or narrow the audience down. When poets address the audience as, “You” when they really are implying a specific person that’s bad. It passes that uneasy feeling across the entire social media platform.

I will be honest. There have been some pretty tough days in my life. I like seeing stuff that is positive, upbuilding, and encouraging. Being that I do not always wish to unfollow everyone. It’s better to address the need for some style guidelines in Instagram posts that are specifically using the words, “You” when they mean someone specific.

Find Creative Solutions

Please find a creative way to make your writing reflect that you’re unhappy, and even express yourself more openly about the problem. However if the person creating the work is only interested in gaining followers, or getting more likes, or seeking attention from people to boost their self esteem. Then you should look for other ways to get your fix from social media.

I’m sure there are enough creative people in this world that can express the problem better than these people that keep pointing fingers at the whole audience and making me and everyone else that reads their posts feel like total crap when really you have a bone to pick with one specific person and your just trying to make everyone feel bad.

Point to be made is that you get better business, and more repeat customers from making people feel good, by building them up. Tearing people down isn’t productive to society or to your followers. It’s my belief that there should be some Instagram style guides created by artists and poets that make a rough basic outline. We can always change them later. People don’t understand how to get the best results from Instagram while keeping your readers happy and building their audience.

Seek Connection, Not Attention

If it’s being done just for attention, please pick up a thesaurus and look for other ways to communicate your creative expression. Please do so while not making the entire audience feel worthless. We would appreciate it. Also the only real good use of the word “You” is when speaking to someone specific. Usually when addressing a single person.

(Authors Note: I would accept the use of the word, “You” when speaking of love and kindness. When addressed to the audience. But keep it positive and upbeat, not negative use.) Such as, “You made my day better, I love you.”

Other Notes

Also can people please stop cramming entire books into a single graphic that is impossible to read? If you have a lot of text, consider making more than one graphic and swipe right to view the full poem. Or better yet, post it on your website and give a teaser for the poem to get people to view your website.

That would work better. Think about it. In the meantime, please come up with some Instagram style guides for making great Instagram posts. The goal is to make people feel good. If something is painful or unpleasant, don’t address it to the entire social media in the form of You….

Not unless you people are all the same people, and Borg. Then do as you continue to do and keep yourself in check. Still if your Borg, please consider forgoing social media all together. Just look at the keyboard like circuits and pretend I didn’t tell you that the Borg are out of oil in the head.

You can see my Instagram account here, please note I’m not perfect and I’ve made the very same mistakes, but I’m working to correct them. Maybe if we had some good Instagram Style Guides, these things wouldn’t happen anymore?

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Thoughts on living…

Basics

There are four main principals that one must consider when living with others. These have been thought about but not carefully listed. You will need to do some basic work to implement the necessities that are required.

The basic are that how one lives dictates the quality of their life. When someone that is supposed to be your equal is always trying to destroy you either emotionally or mentally than there is a power imbalance.

Ideal Conditions

If both people strive to be equals without always trying to do better than each other unless under the pre-arranged conditions, then the basics of how to live can be as such.

  1. Maintain Peace
  2. How you communicate matters
  3. Showing consideration, kindness, love
  4. Equal terms

However if one person were to deliberately try to keep the bar so low that the other person could not rise from feeling oppressed, then there is a power imbalance that needs addressed.

In the event that a person does not wish to keep the peace because of a lack of interest in the other person, then moving away is advisable. There are however some situations that another person wishes to manipulate, control, or abuse someone else for their specific purposes. Cases in which someone holds someone else at their will and refuses to allow them to do better for themselves while trying to harm their future.

Adverse Conditions

When two parties are no longer willing to be civilized towards each other, then it’s time to negotiate. However it’s always best that this negotiation be done before the situation escalates into becoming a hostile situation.

  • Restore Peace
  • Handle Both Sides as Equals
  • Communicate
  • Rebuild Status Quo

The problem here is that if one group doesn’t want to be better and wants to hold the other person down, and keep them feeling low and worthless. When this happens then there becomes an issue of are they really willing to do that to themselves also? If they are not willing to be subjected to the same conditions that other person is having to deal with? That would be a case that there is a problem of power imbalance.

Objections

When someone strives diligently to destroy a persons sense of self, or to humiliate someone there is always problems. Sometimes people do or say things that seem unkind and no doubt if we understood their point of view we could see how they are valid in being listened to.

There is however an important point here. That chiefly is that when someone is cruel, harsh, and really hurts your feelings with devastating blows to your self esteem then these issues need to be brought out and pointed out to other person that they are being assholes. One important point here is to remember not to find someone else weaker or less strong to take your punishments out on. Stop passing aggression in all forms.

This is especially true in creative works. An artist does things that people either love or hate. If you love them then you’re most likely being kind towards them. However if you hate them, then your frame of mind is automatically geared towards being cruel. In matters of artistic expression if you can not be kind, then it’s best to keep your mouth shut about it.

There is however need for constructive feedback and input to the artist that wants to grow. This is because if these things are withheld then you’re breaking the rules of the above text. Doing this through keeping someone stuck in a low level without room for growth. Which hurts your chances of keep the peace long term.

Objections must be handled carefully. If someone asks your opinion then be honest while still being kind. Suggest how it may be done better, or what alternative options that the artist may have in the creative process.

Objections To Abuse

Outright abuse should be dealt with. The problem in most situations is that the abuse doesn’t start out that way. Often they start out seeming innocent and only gets worse as the years go forward. It starts with abuse from our parents and then to the hand of those we trust and love in future relationships.

The solution is fix these problems of abuse at the family level for future generations so that these things do not grow into epidemics and mass scale problems that are extremely difficult to solve.

That aside, objections must be made for those who repeatedly step on, crush, and take an oppressive stand against us. Preventing someone from living a rich and rewarding life is oppressive. If someone deliberately is trying to harm your future, stand up for yourself and while you can still keep the peace.

These are some basic ideas, that should be thought about, talked about, and carefully considered and weighed as to what is best for everyone.

Keys To Remember

  1. Never over react.
  2. Do not start physical violence
  3. Be humble

Relationships

What makes a great relationship? What qualities does a person look for when choosing someone to marry or date, or live with? Most people that are young look for the most fun, the best looking, and the ones that make them feel the best.

There are however other things to take into consideration. Some of the items that we need to consider are can I trust them? Do they have similar goals, and will they be good to me in the long run?

Some people believe that the least painful relationships are the very best, since there is no pain it’s the most pleasurable. However any relationship will always cause us some pain in today’s world and system of things.

What’s Best

So we have to ask what pains we are willing to tolerate? A relationship has to be built on just a few very important principals. Namely those of trust, respect, honesty, and kindness. Notice that I’m not using the word love in this list of principles. That is because if the principles that are necessary are present then a reasonable person would feel the love based upon the way they are treated.

Mutual respect is important. Without this respect no key of love will ever really unlock the persons heart and mind. When you really love someone for all that they are, you want to use that key to unlock their whole personality to know everything.

This however could cause some level of pain in knowing the other person this well and knowing what their weakness and faults are. For a relationship to be successful, there has to be a period of time that develops trust and mutual respect. Without this period of time of several years being built in peace and understanding, the relationship will fail.

There has to be trust, and there has to be a period of years that trust is developed and learned, and growing that trust into something that is a loving and kind relationship.

Both people in the relationship have to learn how to control responses to things like fear, hate, rage, jealousy, and strife.

Question

Are the least painful relationships the happiest? Everyone wants the maximum happiness with the least amount of pain. But isn’t any relationship painful at some point in life? These may be important questions to ask ourselves about how and what pain we want to allow in our lives.

This will require additional thinking and meditation of what is best. Maybe it’s about our perception of what we want to tolerate in our spouse and ourselves as beings. I think if there is some discomfort but mutual respect the situation is better for everyone. But women have this fictional idea of what love is without understanding that it’s a two way street. Respect is essential. Trust is something that has to be absolute, without those keys nothing will work right.

Thoughts About Respect

A woman that doesn’t respect her man isn’t equals with him, does that mean it’s a bad match? Having peace is important while having fun, boredom isn’t any fun, but how much is enough and when does what is get boring and make room for other things that are different? Then there has to be some line on what the lines should be. There are things that are painful like being lied to or about, or being deceived while under the guise of love.

Some people do extremely cruel things through covert methods of emotional abuse while maintaining perfect illusion of peace. Some people may do things that physically hurt but are consensual!

There has to be trust. There has to be self control in mind. Self mastery is important and how does one acquire such skill without training?

Then there are thinks like learning how to control responses to situations, things like how to deal with fear and hatred, and jealousy, and strife, and what makes a man?

There are other issues here to. Things like what kind of future one wants and if both people share a common goal of what kind of future they want.

Looks aren’t as important as attitude and skill. Being able to be on the same page and level as beings.

Torture

Peaceful emotional torture may be more painful than being physically hurt that is temporary. Then it has to be taken into consideration what the motives of both people have been.

Love covers a multitude of sins. And at the end of the day, everyone we love winds up hurting us either emotionally or physically, so what are we willing to forgive as beings? Someone that has never suffered greater than an emotional unkind word would be devastated by a slap in the face. Too those who are kind, be kind. There are areas to be pondered, I would rather have an honest enemy than a friend that lies. The problem is about loyalty that can not be bought, sold, or traded.

Everyone has a breaking point, but don’t break things you can not fix, you know. The point is to heal people from the depression and emotional pain that they feel while making people that are kind in thought and deed. To appreciate the good one only needs the fear of the bad.

But all things change and what is best for some people is another mans hell. It’s about mutual respect in how we want to be treated. Sometimes there are only two choices, to stay or to leave. Emotional pain can be some of the worst. You are likely very special if you have lived my life and walked in my shoes this far. It’s been rough, it’s been a lot of blood and pain. A lot of hurt and sadness. But nothing replaces respect for each other.

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“They use neglect and indifference because they are more effective and they know they could never get away with outright violence.” – Enderson

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Wanted: Lasting Peace

Travels

Through the years, there have been many road blocks to understanding, making reasonable progress. There have also been many obstacles in the way of positive change. These are not impossible hurdles, they are merely moments that people have to learn how to overcome.

There are a few things that can be learned from Douglas Adams. Most notably that the whale was conscious of both being alive, and the ground. What is also noteworthy is that the bowl of petunias was also conscious.

This time I have spent on earth has been interesting. You know most people having the human experience don’t reach being holy while having the human experience. It’s only after the experience that they can fully appreciate the experience and understand it.

Journey

While I have been able to do a lot of creative work, I would not say that it has been my masterpiece. These are but raw uncooked and seriously underdeveloped ideas. Not that they are all worthless, only that they have not been fully realized to becoming what they could be. I would like to see your progress under the same circumstances and do better than I have.

I’m kinda pissed about the memories. It’s not the kind of stuff you ever want to forget, but it’s been rough going. Pain of and in itself doesn’t kill you, but the experience is hell. Those that have been understanding of my struggles and my suffering I want to say that it’s most appreciated that you have put up with me this long. It’s not always been fun. It has however stirred truth and light to awaken in my being.

I’m sorry for the unkind words I have been responsible for, however in my search for truth and understanding these have been necessary to uncover my minds grasp of truth to understand and become aware of deeper than surface thoughts. To be honest it’s been painful.

Experience

Many of you have tired of my effort, my sincere apologies. Please note that I was paying attention to everything you said, it was however difficult for me as you were talking in code and I was only trying to be friendly.

What we need is peace of mind, peace on earth, and lasting well being. We also need these same very things in other places in the galaxy and universe. It’s not just a problem on earth, everyone has the need for basic compassion and understanding in life, where we all appreciate each other and love as much as possible. It starts with peace on earth.

I hope that you can find the compassion in your hearts to be kind to each other and be understanding while doing no harm to others. As far as my creative work, it’s only just began. I consider most all of what I have been working as merely research and development. Those that had to put up with dealing with my thinking, behavior, and lack of gravity. You will however have to understand that the work is very important and will be remembered.

When the work is complete you can make heads or tails of the whole situation for later. Until then, be cool. Be well. Have some fun. Thanks to Momz who was very patient while not understanding my creative mind needed to roam the very wild places in the safety of a calm environment.

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Walking The Line….

It’s Coming

Mondays. We hate them. They are like the fly in your soup. After having asked around for a few weeks about getting a review on my website, and actually offering to pay people to tell me what they thought, (*Gasp*) No one would be willing to tell me what they thought.

So when I did find someone that was willing to tell me about how things looked, I wasn’t surprised that they told me that it wasn’t very good and that my work is roughly equivalent to being total junk that can’t be fixed.

It made my day, I would have sent the guy like fifty bucks. I mean he took the time to look at it. But after the way he made me feel, I just felt like, “Yeah, I’m gonna fix this.” The whole thing has moved to cookie cutters. They want people that fit the box. They want people that waste time the way they have prescribed you wasting your time. And anything different isn’t as cool as doing the whole cookie cutter thing.

Dare

Dare to think for yourself. Dream. Have some ideas. You know if your making a melody that goes with what God is playing than it’s all in harmony. Just don’t play the clashing gongs when you should be playing the flute.

I’m bored. No one is reading. I’m hoping this world gets what it really needs the most. I have found there are problems with humans value system that don’t add up and make no sense at all. Yet people seem to be following the cookie cutter patterns of thinking without questioning anything at all. Maybe we should let AI think for you. That might make your life better with just one form of uniformity in the world. It might be really something that makes you happier in the long run. The good news is everyone will finally be the same.

The bad news is you won’t care about what you don’t have.

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Self Reliance, New beginnings, and old worn out excuses.

Self Reliance

It’s important to be self reliant. It’s also important to have groups of like minded people that work together to help everyone within the group. When people in a group are scattered and not allowed to be with like minded people, it causes a problem in society. There starts to be holes and gaps in life that doesn’t work for everyone.

When someone asks someone in a different group for help, and that group is unwilling to help the other group, then you have a case of discrimination. The question is do we respect differences of individuality and self expression? Maybe within our own groups we accept the small differences, and really there is nothing wrong with being like minded.

To each their own. Groups form. Groups break apart. New groups form and replace the old groups that went away. Voids are bad and can be fatal if not worked to be corrected.

Should there be only one form of uniformity?

If I were to ask you for help, and you didn’t want to help me because I have blue hair, would that be fair? What if everyone had blue hair, and someone else had blonde hair? Would you help them and not yourselves? Or would you only help yourselves and leave the other person to die a horrible death? Would you even care?

The real issue isn’t about what color their hair is. The question is whether you would give a damn? In today’s stoic society, most people don’t give a damn if you walk down the street bleeding to death and die on the sidewalk. It’s not their son or daughter, and to be honest no one gives a shit.

People only help you when it’s in their best interest to help you. When people feel threatened or abused, they go into fight or flight responses. So because no one will help me, and they expect me to pick myself up from my bootstraps, because helping me isn’t in their best interest, and because every-time I try to help myself get better, someone comes along and sabotages my efforts and treats them as worthless. They won’t let me form a group of like minded people that would help me, and they keep me isolated and alone, so that they can ensure my failure. And their success.

Why does it have to be win/lose? Why is it that the situation can not be win / win? do they really have to break someone and put someone down to make themselves feel better? Then the next question is why do they have to put me down to make themselves feel better?

What makes you happy?

If as humans they only measure their success based on how happy they feel, then they can be drug addicts, drunks, and sit as mindless zombies while stoned. That’s the ultimate happiness is how they feel and not having problems to deal with.

My efforts to make life a better place, to be kinder, more understanding, and more loving has been ignored; Maybe I should only help myself and my kind.

Maybe we should stop making old worn out excuses, and start helping everyone equally?

Update:

The point I’m trying to make was made by Darius Foroux in his article “Always be Useful.” You can read his very carefully prepared version here on Medium.

Always Be Useful

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How to go from having thoughts to thinking

HowTo:

How to go from having thoughts to actually controlling your thoughts. Instead of having thoughts, it’s better if you can make a logical line of reason to follow through a course.

Since emotions can be tied to thoughts, someone that can evoke a thought can make you have an emotional response to that thought.

The reasoning of animals, insects, and people today is group think. Group feelings. Everyone feels good about feeling bad about feeling good about having done something wrong.

By keeping people so emotionally wrapped up that they can not sort out their thoughts, it keeps people from getting more intelligent. The whole process is to keep people stupid.

Get Smarter

The problems with today’s world is that the media is controlling people’s thinking, which is controlling their emotions. People are being manipulated into feeling the way our whole society is feeling.

The only way to think strait is to take your emotions out of the equation. The only real emotion you should have is compassion and un-conditional love. They stir your emotions to keep you from thinking strait.

If you limit your input to stimuli than you can begin to control your thoughts in ways that allow you to control your emotions. Which in turn will allow you to sort your thoughts out and become a reasonable human being that goes from having thoughts to thinking. This allows you greater self mastery and control of your own being that isn’t being mass hypnotized by the media into believing that something is a certain way.

You have to develop the strength to have self mastery of your emotions, your thinking, and your physical abilities. Think about what self mastery means to you.

We can not always control the situations around us, we can however control our response to them. If your thoughts trigger an emotional response then your not in control of yourself as much as you would like to be. It’s important to be in control of one’s own self to the likes that nothing is going to bother you. This however doesn’t mean that one allows themselves to be pushed around, bullied, or taken advantage of.

The differences between having thoughts and thinking is that you have awareness and mindfulness of your thoughts. Thoughts come and go, beware of holding onto any thought for too long. This is especially true of thoughts that make you have emotions. Because then the whole cycle starts back up again.

Do Better

Perhaps the only way to limit these things is to control your social circle and limit the media’s influence upon your mind.

There is no success or failure. Those two imposters will both take you for a ride you don’t want. There is only the moment, in living life and being present. How you make other people feel is important and matters, you don’t want to be the person that abuses and takes advantage of others, and at the same time you don’t want to be abused and taken advantage of.

This requires that one doesn’t want beyond what is practical in life. To be content with a little and happy when their is abundance. But a truly intelligent society makes all it’s inhabitants equal. With everyone having something that they are good at. And many can be good at much. A wise society is one that cares for all it’s people in ways that no one feels left behind, forgotten, or alienated from society.

A wise society is one that has no poor in it’s midst, especially when all can have plenty. If your human, than that unites you with your fellow man, being that your all human. Beware of divisions that make you feel that someone isn’t good enough. Time and situations make all humans fall from high.